I’m going to be off tumblr for a while. I have grad school happening now and tumblr has just been making feel really down in general lately anyway, especially after receiving negativity to the one time I put a personal post.
Anonymous said: You really are ugly and you look like a man.
I see you’re too chickenshit to say that off of anon, but was that really necessary? Didn’t your parents teach you to not be nasty? Is this how you get your kicks, to make your petty self feel better every day by putting another person down? What, do you spend your free time trolling the personal tag to see if someone is feeling a little low and that’s when you strike, instead of being positive and saying something worthwhile to another human being?
Well tough shit that’s not how the world works and you are still a small person, since only small people feel that they have to insult others to make themselves feel bigger.
So fuck off and be small and petty somewhere else.
I don’t care for this analogy, honestly.
First of all, it fails to differentiated between experiencing sexual attraction and wanting to have sex—and yes, those are very different things, so this isn’t a matter of semantics.
Secondly, the setup posits people who aren’t on the ace spectrum as constantly wanting to have sex and/or constantly experiencing sexual attraction, which is clearly untrue.
I’ve posted before about how characters who lend themselves to aromantic asexual readings tend to be dedicated on a cause or goal—the implication being that this devotion “replaces” romantic-sexual relationships, which are what should be of paramount importance. The equally dodgy corollary of this is that asexuals are predisposed to ~higher purpose~, since they aren’t thinking about sex all the time like those silly other people. Being aro-ace myself, I cannot vouch for this, but I doubt very much that the majority of humankind is so utterly consumed by sex that they are incapable of other thoughts. :P
Furthermore, desiring sex only in specific circumstances does not necessarily make a person demi or grey-ace; to imply otherwise, as this does, is a gross oversimplification.
I get why the donut analogy has circulated as much as it has, and more power to you if you’ve found it helpful or it’s gotten you to investigate further, but please don’t take it at its face value.